How to Get Better Results by Pretending

Seriously, you can get better results by pretending.

I know I am not alone in my love for daydreaming. It keeps us young when we think in terms of “anything is possible”, and in our imagination, it certainly is. The most successful people in the world use their imaginations to create new innovations and find solutions. The imaginations is where music, stories, plays come from. Imagination brings life to life.

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Pretending is extending your imagination into physical reality. I use the phrase “pretend is your friend”, because it can be a valuable skill that will help you accomplish more, in less time and with greater ease. If you want to know how to get better results, imagination is key.

Let’s consider a scenario where you are feeling a little resistant to cleaning the house and want to get motivated and get it over with quickly. You keep thinking about the dishes in the sink, the floors that need to be vacuumed and mopped, the counters that need to be wiped down, the bathrooms that need to be done. You are exhausted just thinking about it from the sofa where you are making your list so you won’t forget any task (and you can delay the start, showing yourself how much work it is all going to be).

Now imagine that you get phone call. The person calling is someone important to you they say they are coming over and will be there in an hour. Go!

When this really happens, our mind jumps right into action. We stop thinking about why we do not want to clean the house, in this example, and just jump into action.

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The same can hold true for rewards. Think back to when you were a teen. Your friends call and say they are going to the beach and will be at your place to pick you up at 10:30. You tell your mom and she says, “You are going anywhere until your room is spotless and your homework is done!”

Suddenly you figure out how to do six hours of work in two.

Taking the time to condition your mind to think in a way that will produce better results will take time. This is one way to use the power of your mind to create better results in all you do. When you jump into enthusiastic action, and do not pause to consider the downside, you will reach your goals with lightning speed and you will get better results than ever before.

 

Gain Confidence by Getting Out Of Your Head

~Disassociation for Gaining Confidence~

Neuro linguistics, or the language of the mind, never ceases to fascinate me. We do have all the resources we need inside of us, and when you know how your mind works, you can map your way to the unlimited solutions and possibilities that lie within.

People believe in people

Being confident provides you with more opportunities because people believe in people who believe in themselves! Confidence makes you feel good too. There are many ways to become confident, yet the strategy I am going to share with you is powerful and can be used in so many different ways.

 

Nervousness and fear push confidence out. Just as turning on the light in a room causes the darkness to vanish, when we understand our less than supportive feelings, we can vanquish the fear and allow the confidence to shine brightly as well.

The reason we get nervous is that we are afraid that we will not do well, that people will laugh at us or reject our ideas and we are not sure we are capable or as capable as others are. WE TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY.

Today’s focus is on not taking it personally if you do not get the desired outcome.

Ever notice how it is easier to give others advice than to have a clear path for yourself? This happens in business and relationships. This is because we take things personally. When you do not get a desired outcome, you label it, and yourself, a failure. You cannot see that the only failure is when you don’t try and that you are always gaining and winning when you put effort towards a worthy goal.

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Bring to mind your child. If you don’t have kids of your own, think of a niece or neighborhood child you are fond of. If that child came to you asking you for advice, you would look at the situation objectively, with no personal involvement other than wanting what is best for the little one. You would consider her situation, try to view it from all angles, come up with as many solutions as possible, find the best one, probably have a back-up plan or two to share with her, let her know that no matter what the outcome is that as long as she tries her best, she will gain valuable skills to make her better and better. This is logical thought process and without personal emotional attachment, our skills of reasoning are much more proficient.

Disassociation is brilliant in its simplicity. It works because you take yourself out of the equation, thus taking the emotion out of the equation.

1. Find a quiet spot where you can have a few minutes to yourself.

2. Bring to mind a situation that has you upset or nervous.

3. Close your eyes and imagine that situation. When you do, imagine it as if you are above the scene and looking down. See yourself as if you are watching a movie.

4. Notice what is going on as you see the situation play out in front of you, but no matter what someone says or does, or how things turn out, simply notice what is happening.

5. Now think of all the positive that is in this situation. What did you learn that you can use in the future? What possible solution could work in this situation? Explore all possibilities and assure the person in the movie you are watching (you) of all the good in the situation.

By not taking the situation personally, you will not label yourself a failure. You will instead do your best and recognize that you gained a lot. This is keep your self-esteem and confidence from eroding when things don’t seem to go your way. The more you deal with challenging situations in an effective and productive way, the more your confidence will soar.

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Teaching children to think this way is important, especially girls. In females, the amygdala, or area of the brain responsible for worrying is much more active than in males. When you introduce those interesting hormones on top of that, you have a recipe for high drama and taking everything personally. The long term damage can be staggering.

Practice this and share with your children. The best way to protect your kids is to teach them to protect themselves.

How to Build Confidence and Self-Esteem Doing Nothing

We are always looking for ways to improve ourselves, it’s just in our nature. Knowing how to build confidence is valuable because confident people will live happier, healthier more successful lives. Confidence produces an energy that supercharges our goals and our lives. We feel good when we are confident and that also bolsters our self-esteem, another valuable asset for living a fulfilling and meaningful life.

Without confidence
• You will not attempt new things that will allow you to grow
• You will feel that you have less value as a person
• You create limiting beliefs and settle for less than you deserve and can have in life
• The stress of being asked to do things you are not comfortable with will release toxins into your system and make you unhealthy
• Worry becomes an overwhelming side-effect
• Eventually you will wallow in regret for things you were too afraid to do
• You think in terms of why you can’t do things rather than how to make it happen, thus sabotaging yourself

Confidence and self-esteem are so important to the quality of your existence and I am going to tell you one of the top things you can do to gain confidence.

NOTHING.

Seriously, nothing! Most people call this nothing meditation.

Ask yourself, is it worth 30 minutes a day, (15 in the morning and 15 at night), to have a calmer, happier, more organized, satisfying and successful life where I feel better mentally physically and spiritually? And in this time all I have to do is nothing.

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I don’t have to be psychic to know that most sane people will answer a resounding YES! Even some not so sane people will as well. I mean, with all the responsibilities and things on the 2 page to do list, who wouldn’t like a few minutes a day to do nothing?

There’s no shame in this game either, because you actually are doing something by doing nothing. Those who meditate on a regular basis have always reported being calmer, lower blood pressure, increased clarity and energy, and a plethora of other mental and physical benefits. Now science is backing it all up.

Neuro scientists have been studying the amygdala, the region in the brain associated with worry and regret, for decades. During their research it was discovered that regular meditation calmed the activity in this area of our brain and over an extended period those who engaged in regular meditation were able to manage stress better.

This is especially important for women since we are physically wired to be more nervous and less confident than men. We also release a lot of cortisol when we stress and worry and this makes us gain weight.

So why is it a great idea to do nothing a couple times a day and have a clear conscious about taking that time for yourself?
• Weight loss
• Calmer thoughts
• Happier overall
• Less worry and regret making room for positive, supportive thoughts
• Lower blood pressure
• Lower stress
• Healthier heart
• Better lung capacity
• More clarity
• Stronger focus
• Builds confidence
• Supports self-esteem

 

The side effects are
• Better health
• Closer spiritual connection
• Better relationships
• More successful in achieving goals
• Fulfillment of leading a meaningful life
• You just plain feel better about yourself and your life

My Purple Gift

Once you decide to give yourself this gift, you will want to start right away. I will give you the brief version of how to get started. Feel free to comment, ask questions or look for future blogs on the subject. Since it is the fastest and easiest way to gain confidence and self-esteem, I will be devoting a bit of attention to meditation and ways to deepen your meditation.

1. Pick a time of day in the morning and in the evening.
2. Select a quiet place where you will be free of distractions.
3. Wear loose, comfortable clothes.
4. If you are first starting, I recommend selecting a guided meditation. That way you can let go of all your thoughts and focus on the voice.
5. Be sure to turn off all cell phones.
6. Tell your mind before you begin that you will be meditating for 15 minutes (or the length of the meditation recording) and that everything else can wait until you are done.

If your thoughts drift away from the voice, gentle dismiss the thoughts and bring your attention back to the voice.
There is no need to listen intently to the voice, just relax and let your subconscious absorb the message.
If you have an itch that seems to be intensifying, gently scratch it and return your focus to the voice.
Relax, enjoy, get healthy, happy and shine your light bright!

Click here to listen to my Confidence Activating Meditation now.

My gift to you because I care.

Confidence vs. Self-Esteem

Many people think of confidence and self-esteem as the same thing. When we look a little closer, we will see that although they look similar, there are distinct differences between confidence and self-esteem that really do matter.

Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself, your value and your self-worth. Confidence is something you feel and emanate when you are certain you can achieve a desired outcome. Knowing the differences and learning how to grow both will give you an enormous advantage in all areas of your life. Both of these qualities seem to be lacking more in women than in men.

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A person with a strong self-esteem knows their strengths and appreciates them. They do not strive to be perfect, they strive to be the best they can be and know that is enough. They do not measure their worth by the way others treat them and will instead, treat themselves well. When a person has a strong self-esteem, they will be more optimistic, see opportunities and possibilities and will take on new challenges, confident that they have the ability to succeed or at the very least, learn lessons they will need to grow and advance. Self-esteem is all about how you feel about you.

People are confident in different tasks and confidence (as well as self-esteem) can be fostered.

Confidence can be developed in many ways. Preparation and practice being two key ways. When I first starting singing in a band, I would get very nervous. I had never done this before and wanted to do well, to have people like my performance. After all, who likes being told they stink? The band practiced 3 hours a night 3 nights a week. After about a year of practice and about 10 gigs, I couldn’t wait to get on stage. I loved singing and was certain that I would hit all the notes and make them sound good. I developed great confidence and was very self-assured when I would sing or play keyboards. Eventually we opened for bands like Huey Lewis and the News, Doobie Brothers, Kansas and many more. We had a crowd of almost 4,000 people for one of our shows and since I was prepared and had mastered singing the songs we played, I felt good about it.

I Can Do This

When you have strong self-esteem and feel good about yourself, you will be more confident in your ability to do well at new things. You will also be easy on yourself when you do not get the desired outcome in a project or meet a goal when you set a deadline. You will acknowledge how far you have come and set another deadline, not giving up until you reach your goal.

Both qualities are incredibly important to you well-being. And both qualities and be nurtured and developed.

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In my Facebook Group, the Confidence Zone, and here in my blog, we will discuss what confidence is, why women tend to lack in confidence, how you can become aligned with your confidence, things you can do to improve your self-esteem and confidence and give you the tools and techniques that will lead to a happier, healthier and more successful life. You will come to realize that many of your beliefs that do not make you feel good about yourself and your abilities, simply are not true. That is important because when that happens, you will be free to imprint new beliefs and use the tools provided so confidence and self-love become your way of life. And when you have these, you will feel better about yourself, your relationships, your future, your contribution to the world and you will find true success and lasting happiness.

For free meditations, articles, advice and effective ways to bolster your confidence and self-esteem and be the best you living the best life possible, join the Confidence Zone at www.Facebook.com/groups/1646338938920263

Achieve Success Through Follow Up: 7 Ideas and Tips

achieve successFollow up is critical in order to achieve success. Who would ever book a ticket to Hawaii, get a hotel and car rental, plan a couple of excursions and then just not go?

It is the same with relationships. We spend so much time finding events where there will be people that can support us and that we can support in our careers, lives and passions. We pay to go, dress up, get our business cards and spend a few hours turning strangers into friends, or potential friends, that we hope will turn into business associates when the time is right. We collect a hand full of cards that go into our “system” if we are very organized and into a drawer if not.

Then, because we are not getting the results, we go to more networking events and stash more cards in our drawer that is quickly approaching overflowing. Does this sound like a great formula for success?

One important secret for success is to have a system for follow up.

7 Ideas and Tips to Help You Achieve Success

  1. When you schedule the event, decide how many quality leads you want to return with. Setting your intentions from the start will help you achieve success in attain your goals.
  2. When you put the event on your calendar, also block off time to make follow up calls to the amount of people you intend to connect with. Also block of time to meet in person with at least one of them. Expect good things!!!
  3. When you take someone’s business card, ask them if they mind if you call in a couple of days. When someone is expecting your call, not only will it be easier for you to do, but you are more likely to do it. After all, you would not want to let them down.
  4. One secret to success is to make notes about the person. If you do not have a perfect memory, jot it down and refer to it before you call back. You will soon know all about them and will not need the notes.
  5. When you call people back, call with an attitude of service. If you are genuinely interested in helping people, they will become interested in helping you. You are calling to develop a relationship, not to make a sale. A sale is a result of having a good relationship.
  6. Never eat alone. This is the perfect way to develop a lasting relationship that creates life time customers.
  7. Schedule time every month to touch base with the people in your circles.

These 7 tips will help you achieve success in networking. I will have an entire class and system laid out for you soon as I develop the Skills for Success Series coming soon.

Thanks and have a wonderful day.

Cassi Eubank

p.s. Did you get your free Empowerment Meditations yet? I want you to have them as my gift to you.

7 Steps to Instant Attitude of Gratitude

attitude of gratitudeWhy is gratitude good for us? With an attitude of gratitude, we will achieve success more easily, we will be happy, it contributes to our health and wellness and we have increased life balance. All great reasons, and there is soooo much to be grateful for.

But if we aren’t feeling grateful, how do we get grateful? Hmmmm

Well I’ve got a few good ideas!

1. Gratitude Awareness

Start with gratitude awareness – just be aware that you have many things to be grateful for. That’s a great first step.

2. Gratitude List

A gratitude list is another great way to remind yourself of all that is going right in your life. Remember to add to it often.

3. Draw Gratitude Into Your Heart

How about taking just 5 minutes, setting a timer and sitting someplace quiet while deliberately drawing feelings of gratitude into your heart. This is a very powerful practice that increases your health and over all well-being.

4. Rampage of Gratitude

I LOVE the rampage of gratitude! This is where you don’t just read your gratitude list, you really get into the feelings of gratitude and let the energy of your gratitude super charge you. Look for a blog and a video detailing how to elicit your own rampage of gratitude to be coming soon. This is a secret super power that will really open you to the energy of achieving great success.

5. Share Your Gratitude

You can share your gratitude by offering everyone you meet a smile, performing random acts of kindness or simply giving someone a heart-felt compliment. By sharing with someone that you are grateful to have them in your world, you get super charged with happiness yourself.

6. Send Your Gratitude

When you send your thanks by way of a letter, a note or mailed gift, something special happens for you and the recipient of your kind thoughts. Don’t you agree that there is something really cool about getting personalize mail? It makes us feel special because someone took the time and effort for you. And when you engage in this practice, you have the prolonged effects of feeling good when you send it and every day for the next week while you anticipate the joy you are bringing to someone you care about! Or what about sending anonymous notes to strangers, letting them know that they are pretty great and offering a smile face and kind word?

7. Live in a State of Gratitude

This one takes practice, but once you achieve success in doing so, you may feel like there is a slice of heaven here on earth. And it resides in your heart.

So why not develop an attitude of gratitude and find balance in life, improve your health and overall wellness, find you achieve greater success with less effort and be happier than ever before?

Thanks and have a wonderful day.

Cassi Eubank

p.s. Did you get your free Empowerment Meditations yet? I want you to have them as my gift to you.

Endless Possibilities, Hope and a New Start

Life Coach Cassi Eubank here wishing you a Happy New Year from Boca Raton, Florida.

The New Year is a wonderful time because it represents a new start, hope and the possibility of change. Do you feel that too?

Greater Possibilities

Maybe that is why I love everything about the New Year. It lines up with all my beliefs. That we can always have a fresh start, just by saying we can. That the possibilities for us are greater than we usually realize. And that we can change and have an extraordinary life!

While we can do this any time we choose to, it seems the when the ball drops in Times Square, a door closes on the last 12 months and we are able to look ahead.

So why then, does this new hope and this elated feeling of possibilities seem to fade faster than my tan after a Mexican vacation?

Fuel Your Good Intentions with Passion

It’s because we set goals with good intentions, but they don’t have passion fueling them. The kind of passion that only comes when you are connected to your true purpose.

Think about it for a second. If you are connected with your true purpose, you get really excited, and with that comes passion. We know what we want, we know why we want it and we cannot wait to bring life to our vision. We cannot wait to get up and start doing the things we need to do to bring this dream to fruition. We don’t feel like we are working, we’re just having fun at life. What is that saying, “When you love your work you never work another day in your life!”

Any way….. My wish for you this New Year is that you find your purpose, connect with your passion and live an extraordinary life.

Please connect with me  I have a free eBook on overcoming the obstacles to success and I would love to share my secrets with you!

Happy New Year to one and to all!

Cassi Eubank

p.s. Did you get your free Empowerment Meditations yet? I want you to have them as my gift to you.

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