Giving and Ghosts From the Now

If you want to develop self-love, my previous blog Self Love and Ghosts from the Past is a fun and effortless way to absorb this very important message.

 

Bah Humbug Part 2

I had just woke from a dream featuring the ghost of a much younger me. It seemed I was jolted out of the first dream as quickly as I slid right into its continuation.  

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… With that the girl was gone, my husband was still in his chair, which was no longer vibrating and Ebenezer Scrooge was looking quite pale. I reflected for a moment on this dream or vision I had, feeling something new. Feeling a glow of self-love that was stronger than I had ever felt before and I thought isn’t this the best Christmas gift ever?

Smiling, I looked back over to my left and now saw my twin, an identical version of me at my current age. I thought, this is so cool. I had always wanted a twin! Of course that was mostly in high school so she could take the classes I didn’t want to. (Yes, I imagined her liking all the classes I didn’t.)

“Hey” I said. “Look at us. We are doing great, aren’t we?”

“No,” she said quite seriously.

Already I was liking the younger version of me a lot better.

I ran through the check list of all that I had to be grateful for. Wonderful husband, great family, fantastic friends, nice home…

“It’s not about you or us. It’s about them.”

With that, she took my hand and I was able to see into homes. Some were homes of people I knew. Some were homes of people I have yet to meet. Each of these homes had one thing in common. There were people in pain inside those home. They were locked in the vicious circle of negative thoughts creating a negative life and didn’t know how to get out.

Immediately I started defending myself. “I try to set a good example. I try to deliver the message of how important it is to transform your thoughts.”

“Are you doing all you can?”

I didn’t answer and that in itself was the answer.

“Why not?” I demanded of myself.

“What do I have to say that is so unique? It’s all been said before, so how am I supposed to make such a big difference?”

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Her answer was simple. “You make a difference by giving. The more you give, the greater the difference you make. Never doubt yourself. Instead, think about why we need to do more and give more. There are others who need us, and let that will give you courage. You are braver than you know and smarter than you think. If you ever hear the voice of doubt, always remember how much they need us and just shout at that stupid old voice, “Bah Humbug!”

Awake once more, I looked over at my husband, still sleeping in the massage chair, and thought, “I don’t remember drinking that much eggnog.”

Then I reflected on the message the dream delivered to me. I knew that if I looked at the past with loving memories and had forgiven myself and others, I would be free of the doubt and regret that could come to mind too often, distracting me from the wonderful present that I truly was grateful for. I also knew now, that when I was giving to others, I felt good and stayed in the now. This increased my appreciation for all I had and feel deep gratitude for what I was experiencing in the moment.

If I could stop worrying about the future, I knew I would feel the freedom of enjoying and basking in every glorious moment of every day. When I fell back asleep with that on my mind, I learned so much about confidence and trusting in the future when I was visited by my Ghost of the Future. Join my next blog to learn what happened in Dreamland.

The Secret to Success – How to Be More Successful

This morning I listened to an audio of The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale, a book I had read some twenty years ago. There is a reason this book is still on the must read list of great minds. People often ask, how come some people seem to have all the luck and I don’t seem to be able to get ahead. The answer is explained in this book. While I have included a pdf download at the bottom of this blog, here are the Cliff notes.

There are 5 ESSENTIAL steps for becoming wealthy.

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ONE
~ Master your thoughts ~
They say master your thoughts, I like to refer to it as becoming more selective of your thoughts. Thoughts are there, all the time, even when we sleep and our thoughts shape our future. It has taken a lifetime to condition your mind to be negative. Doubt and fear underlie the thoughts of most if they don’t actually take over all together. It’s also become a habit for many to focus on the problem, spending much more time engaged in those thoughts than selecting thoughts that are conducive to finding a solution. It takes time and practice to get really good at being able to select positive, solution based thoughts, yet it is the very first step mentioned in the book.

If you are looking for a program that will guide you into this way of thinking with fun practice as you develop this skill let me know. This is one of the key elements my Train Your Brain for Rock Star Success program focuses on.

TWO
~ Create Strong Empowering Beliefs ~

Changing your belief system is the foundation that all success is built on. You must be able to imagine a thing, create it in your mind, before you can bring it into your existence. You can only imagine a thing if you believe it is possible. Therefore, to do what seems impossible, you must believe that all things are possible. Not an easy task when so many of the things we have been told or experienced cause us to start believing that we are limited and have limitations. It takes time to develop a new habit, and you will find this investment to be one of your greatest investments in yourself and your future that you will ever make.

THREE
~ Think in Terms of Opportunities and Possibilities ~

Of course, I am paraphrasing what I listened to, but that is the idea they convey. I know how being able to think in terms of possibilities and opportunities will create such a degree of success that others will call you lucky and wonder why everything always seems to go your way. And things will be going your way when you spend the time to develop the skill of solution based thinking. This works because when you are focused on the problem 50% of the time and focused on the solution 50% of the time it will take you twice as long to find the right answer and you will miss many other opportunities during that time.

I loved listening to this audio because these are the result people get with my Train Your Brain program does. It allows you to transcend your life to the point where you feel like you have magic powers because everything is so fun, fast and easy.

FOUR
~ Save 10% of Everything You Make ~

I wish I had started this practice the first time I read this book. Actually, I did save it, then I would spend it when there was something big I felt would make my life better. Perhaps it should say save 10% of everything you make and do not touch it EVER. After a lifetime of doing this, you will be receiving some great pay outs on the principle!

It’s never too late to start!

FIVE
~ Take Action ~

When you are taking action, it is important to happily put 100% into everything you do. There is something about putting your all into actions that activates the universe to bring you what you truly want. This works because when the universe knows you are giving your all with the little things, it wants to bring you the big things.

With this fun, easy to follow course, Train Your Brain for Rock Star Success, you will practice and develop these skills until they become second nature to you. When you do this, the universe has no choice but to grant you your wishes and bring you your heart’s desires.

Are you ready to take action?

 

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Meditation for Money

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We all know or at least have heard the many benefits that meditation has on our health and well-being.

• Decreases depression
• Reduces stress and anxiety
• Reduces symptoms of panic disorder
• Reduces alcohol and substance abuse
• Improves your focus and attention to detail
• Improves information processing and decision-making
• Improves memory and ability to learn
• Improves your mood and makes you happier

 

Many benefits can be scientifically measured as well.
• Increases grey matter concentration in the brain
• Reduces risk of heart disease and stroke
• Affects your immunity
• Reduces blood pressure
• Decreases inflammatory disorders

I could go on, but I want to talk about meditation and how it will help you make more money.

Health & Money

We know that meditation will make us healthier. When poor health requires and divides our attention, it stunts our growth and keeps us from accomplishing our goals as quickly and easily as we are meant to. When we are healthy, we can stay focused on our dreams and goals without the immediate tug of being unwell distracting us.

Meditation = Health. Health = More Money!

Focus & Money

Countless studies and personal experience say that when you meditate, your focus becomes better. The better your focus, the more quickly and proficiently you will complete what needs to be done to get where you wish to go.

Meditation = Focus. Focus = Money!

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More importantly…

What we focus on will come to be. Why not focus on increasing our income? When you meditate, you are connecting with the oneness of the universe and you become part of that oneness. It is here that you will find all answers, including the ones about how to add more value to the world so you will be rewarded in turn monetarily. You can discover solutions to issues that have been placed in your path for you to learn from. You have access to the collective intelligence of the universe when you meditate. If you wish to make more money, this is where you want to go.

Keep in mind, we never know how the information will be presented to us in meditation. You may get an idea on how to implement the youth program you have wanted to start. Perhaps you think of a friend who specializes in an issue you need help with. Yet be assured, that when you meditate and get the information you need, the right people and opportunities will come in your path to allow you allow you to bring that which you meditated on to fruition.

Money MeIf you have any misconceived ideas that meditation is supposed to be spiritual so therefore you should not meditate on money, I say BULL!

Meditation is spiritual and what could be more spiritual than finding a way to give so much to others that you have more than enough money to live the glorious life that the universe means for you to have! 

 

Clarity Brings Success

“The number one reason people don’t get what they want is that they don’t know what they want.”        ~T Harv Eker

 

When it comes to success, happiness, financial security and most things in life, the more clear you get on what you want and why you want it, the faster you will achieve that goal.

WHAT DO YOU WANT?

If you are looking for a new home you have to know how many bedrooms and bathrooms you want. Do you want a pool? Do you have special requirements about storage, kitchen space or yard space? If you were to tell a realtor that you want a new house and that is all, it is too vague for them to be able to help you. The clearer you become on the details, the more closely they be able to match you with a home that suits your needs.

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If you wish to release some extra pounds you have been holding onto, how many pounds do you wish to release and when do you want to be free of that weight? Date it! When you put a date on when you intend to accomplish this goal by, it makes it real.

This is especially true when it comes to financial and career goals. People want to make more money. They want more clients. You may wish for more money and find a dollar on the sidewalk. You may wish for more clients but perhaps you really want clients who are easy to work with that pay on time.

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Get clear. How much do you want to make each month? Is it free and clear or is that before taxes? Awesome. Now figure out what your expenses are and how much you will need to bring in to clear the amount you have decided on. Then decide what service or value you will give to others which will allow you to receive the amount you desire. If you are not exactly sure what you will do to earn it yet, that is alright. With total faith that it will happen, the answers and opportunities will come to you.

You also want to get clear on your why. Why do you want to eat better? Is it for your health, so you feel good, so you fit into your old jeans? Do you want more money so you can visit your loved ones who don’t live near? Do you have a charity that you wish to help out financially?

Being clear on what you want and why you want it will cause you to be more motivated, which is important because your motivation level will determine the amount of effort you will put into your goal. It also keeps you excited about achieving the outcome, which will keep you vibrating at the frequency of success and attracting more good things to you!

Are You A Rock Star?

YOU ARE A ROCK STAR IF…

A ROCK STAR is a person who knows they have unique skills and wisdom to offer the world and they are courageous enough to take their stage. A ROCK STAR never settles and always finds a way to get what they want while providing great value to their fans. ROCK STAR’s know that they will achieve super star status when they practice their craft until it looks easy.

Then they just have fun doing what they love to do.

I love the commercial that Intel put out four years ago. It features a man, Ajay Bhatt – co-inventor of the USB, walking into the break room. The other employees stop to stare, the women start to swoon over this rock star in the field of technology.

What does it take to be a rock star in your field and to get rock star results?

It comes from having the right attitude. You get the right attitude from having the right beliefs, or believing in yourself and your abilities. You get a better belief system when you select better thoughts.

This is why the single most important skill you can develop is solution based thinking.

As kids, we have this ability and we tend to be very happy. When we get older, our parents, teacher, friends and other well-meaning people will tell us all about our limitations, and we begin to believe them. So the voice in our head wavers between the voice of our soul, telling us to pursue our passions and live the life we are meant to live, and the voice of doubt telling us not to take chances or risk. We move one step forward and two steps back, staying stuck in the rut of mediocrity. We feel like we are on a hamster wheel, working so hard for so little.

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Like all skills that we take the time to practice and strengthen, solution based thinking is the skill that will set you free. When you learn to think in terms of possibilities and opportunities, you will start noticing more opportunities and possibilities. That when you get in this cool zone where the right people and circumstances will always appear right when you need them. Life becomes so much easier, you get much better results for your efforts and you enjoy life more.

When faced with a challenge or issue, acknowledge it and notice what needs your attention. What is the problem? Now move onto the solution and stay there. Do not focus on the problem again. You may wish to also ask, how can this situation be prevented from happening again, yet once that is brought up, turn immediately to solutions.

For more on solution based thinking, look for future articles or ask about my Train Your Brain for Rock Star Success ™ program and how it will change your life.

Rock Stars get to where they are because think about and talk about how to get things done, how to get to where they want to be. If something doesn’t work out, they try it a new way. They keep getting better by practicing and they only take yes for an answer. They find a way to make things happen because that’s all they focus on.

You too can be a rock star in your field. You may be one of many in your field, but there is nobody like you. Courageously take your stage. Find a way to make things happen by staying in the solution. Get so good at what you do, offer so much value, that your clients – or should I say raving fans, will want to induct you, their favorite rock star, in A HALL OF FAME ALL OF YOUR OWN!

Get Good at One Thing ~ Repeat

If you want to become a successful entrepreneur, there are many things you will need to learn. I love working with women wo are beginners or boomers that want more out of life and are willing to do what it takes, even though they are not yet sure what it will take. They are brave women who are courageous enough to take action despite the doubts of others as well as self-doubt. When I work with women entrepreneurs who are just getting in the game, overwhelm can set in and it can be easy to get discouraged because there is so much to do.

One of the biggest mistakes that a new entrepreneur can do is trying to do it all… at once.

I took a business mastery course where I learned a lot. During one of the online classes we were being told we need to be on Facebook to connect, set up LinkedIn and get active there, probably Twitter, start blogging, do videos and out them on Youtube, then share to your social media, write a free eBook to give away on your website, make sure you have great pictures, come up with a funnel, write a speech… you get the idea.

 

The faint of heart would wilt before they finished hearing the list. When it was Q&A time, I pointed out that there are only so many hours in a day, what is most important and what should be done first?

 

I was told they were all important and we had to do them all.

 

Whaaaaa???????

 

The truth? Start with one thing, get good at it and when it is easy to do, repeat.

If your goal is to learn five new languages so you can become a foreign ambassador, you would not take five languages courses at once! It would get way too confusing and you would not do well at any of them.

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It is the reason I am developing a great radio program, My Success Zone Radio. I used the word “developing” for a reason. Since I have done three radio shows in the past, two on AM radio and one on the internet, it would be easy for me to not pay attention to details.

For example, not to point out my flaws, but… when the introduction was recorded, it ran the full 30 seconds, as does the music I use in the background. While this is acceptable, I know it would sound just a little better – more pleasing for my listeners – if there was a second or two of music before my voice over guy begins and a second or two after his finishes speaking. So I just paid to have it redone.

  1. I was hosting My Success Zone Radio on Blogtalk and found a better solution (better financially as well as a much better SEO choice). So I am taking the time to switch it.
  2. I’m automating the notifications and posters that are shared on social media so others will know about and be able to benefit from the great interviews.
  3. I am creating a place where those in my inner circle will be able to listen to replays for some time before they are archived.

I have many other fun projects coming up, yet I know that I want to keep my focus here until all the details are taken care of. When you learn to really focus, it happens quickly.

Get Good

The point is, I invite you to consider getting really good at one thing. It will build your confidence and your motivation. With practice, things do get easier and when it becomes natural and effortless, you can conquer the next step, bridging the gap between where you are and where you want to be rather than running around trying to do it all and not doing anything well.

Gain Confidence by Getting Out Of Your Head

~Disassociation for Gaining Confidence~

Neuro linguistics, or the language of the mind, never ceases to fascinate me. We do have all the resources we need inside of us, and when you know how your mind works, you can map your way to the unlimited solutions and possibilities that lie within.

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Being confident provides you with more opportunities because people believe in people who believe in themselves! Confidence makes you feel good too. There are many ways to become confident, yet the strategy I am going to share with you is powerful and can be used in so many different ways.

 

Nervousness and fear push confidence out. Just as turning on the light in a room causes the darkness to vanish, when we understand our less than supportive feelings, we can vanquish the fear and allow the confidence to shine brightly as well.

The reason we get nervous is that we are afraid that we will not do well, that people will laugh at us or reject our ideas and we are not sure we are capable or as capable as others are. WE TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY.

Today’s focus is on not taking it personally if you do not get the desired outcome.

Ever notice how it is easier to give others advice than to have a clear path for yourself? This happens in business and relationships. This is because we take things personally. When you do not get a desired outcome, you label it, and yourself, a failure. You cannot see that the only failure is when you don’t try and that you are always gaining and winning when you put effort towards a worthy goal.

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Bring to mind your child. If you don’t have kids of your own, think of a niece or neighborhood child you are fond of. If that child came to you asking you for advice, you would look at the situation objectively, with no personal involvement other than wanting what is best for the little one. You would consider her situation, try to view it from all angles, come up with as many solutions as possible, find the best one, probably have a back-up plan or two to share with her, let her know that no matter what the outcome is that as long as she tries her best, she will gain valuable skills to make her better and better. This is logical thought process and without personal emotional attachment, our skills of reasoning are much more proficient.

Disassociation is brilliant in its simplicity. It works because you take yourself out of the equation, thus taking the emotion out of the equation.

1. Find a quiet spot where you can have a few minutes to yourself.

2. Bring to mind a situation that has you upset or nervous.

3. Close your eyes and imagine that situation. When you do, imagine it as if you are above the scene and looking down. See yourself as if you are watching a movie.

4. Notice what is going on as you see the situation play out in front of you, but no matter what someone says or does, or how things turn out, simply notice what is happening.

5. Now think of all the positive that is in this situation. What did you learn that you can use in the future? What possible solution could work in this situation? Explore all possibilities and assure the person in the movie you are watching (you) of all the good in the situation.

By not taking the situation personally, you will not label yourself a failure. You will instead do your best and recognize that you gained a lot. This is keep your self-esteem and confidence from eroding when things don’t seem to go your way. The more you deal with challenging situations in an effective and productive way, the more your confidence will soar.

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Teaching children to think this way is important, especially girls. In females, the amygdala, or area of the brain responsible for worrying is much more active than in males. When you introduce those interesting hormones on top of that, you have a recipe for high drama and taking everything personally. The long term damage can be staggering.

Practice this and share with your children. The best way to protect your kids is to teach them to protect themselves.

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