I recently had the pleasure of meeting and developing a friendship with a remarkable woman, who shall remain nameless. She had gone through a very unique, very public scandal and was not dealt with fairly by circumstance or by others around her. As trusting as she is, she found few she could trust in return.
When I met her, I had no idea about her history. I stay away from the papers since the negative vibe that most carry don’t align with the energy I like to keep. One day at lunch, we were talking about turning your pain into profit and using your voice to add value to others.
I asked her the revealing statement, “If you knew then what you know now, how much would that be worth to you?” She began to see the value in her message, as it would have been worth a tremendous amount to her both emotionally and financially.
You see, when we look at our pain, the idea of profiting from what has hurt us may not feel right because we know there is no value in making money by portraying a victim.
What I love and admire about my new friend is that she instinctively knew that she could profit from her past, yet she knew it had to be in a way that added true value to others. She knew she couldn’t sell just the story of her pain; it didn’t feel right to her.
When we reframed the scenario to how we could extract the value from the lesson, so others do not go through what she has (or they at least know how to deal with these stressful situations with grace and dignity) she knew she could give more than she was asking in return as she developed ways to share with and help other women.
Now my friend is a woman of many passions and when we sit down for our VIP day she will go through some of my signature processes to see which way she feels she wants to proceed into her future. Perhaps she will become famous as “the voice of reason during insane times” – teaching others to own their past rather than letting their past own them. Maybe she will be guided to help others through health and fitness, another passion of hers. No matter what her heart guides her to do, she will be fantastic, and I will be proud of her because she is DOING something she is passionate about.
Do you have a message to share? What have you gone through that you know others would love to avoid? The things that happen in our life have no meaning except the meaning we give them. Will you give them meaning by helping others through your experiences?
I invite you to find the value in your pain, first to heal yourself, then to heal others.